INSECURE

The word is the way and the obstacle

There’s a word we use casually every day—
a word most of us fear, avoid,
judge ourselves for, and misunderstand completely.

Insecure.

We say it like it’s a flaw.
A weakness.
A personality defect.
A sign we’re not whole enough, brave enough, healed enough.

But if you slow down
and actually look at the word—
really look at it—
you discover the truth it was hiding the whole time:

In-secure.
Not secure in.

The wound and the way are inside the same syllable.

The word is a spell
we’ve been casting unconsciously
in our darkest moments.

We say “I’m insecure”
but what we’re really saying is:

I don’t feel safe in myself.
I’m searching for security outside me
because I cannot feel it inside me yet.

And the spell continues:

Go in.
Find the security you keep begging the world to give you.
Come home. Rebuild the self that was shaped everywhere but within.

This is the secret nobody taught us:

Insecurity isn’t a flaw.
It’s a benediction to your body.
A compass.
A call inward.
A doorway back into the self you abandoned
to survive childhood, culture, religion, family, image, belonging.

Insecure is not a diagnosis.
It’s an invitation.

Every time you feel insecure,
your psyche is whispering:

“You’re looking outward again.
Turn inward. Build the security you keep chasing in others.”

This is the alchemy:

You don’t cure insecurity
by performing better, pleasing harder, achieving more,
or earning someone’s love, approval, attention, or attachment.

You cure insecurity
by building something inside yourself
that the outside world can’t touch.

You cure insecurity
by becoming internally authored.

You cure insecurity
by becoming the one who determines your worth.

Insecurity dissolves
the moment you live from a self
the world didn’t build
and therefore cannot break.

This is the heart of the spell:

INSECURE → IN + SECURE
Go inward to build what you’ve been borrowing.

Let this be your first alchemy.

Let this be the spell that changes everything.